My Hair and God's Mercies . . . New Every Morning by Yvette Maher

Author:Yvette Maher
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 9781604826838
Publisher: Focus on the Family
Published: 2012-05-05T00:00:00+00:00

Tommy and I both feel as if we’ve been forgiven “the most.” And we are very, very grateful to God for His mercy.

Focusing on My Family

I attribute many of our marital successes to the wealth of knowledge we gained during my tenure with Focus on the Family. The ministry’s mission is to build strong marriages and families, and when Tommy and I started out, we were anything but strong.

Tommy and I learned so much from the teachings of experts while I worked at Focus. We’ve tried to make it a practice to listen intentionally and heed the wisdom given to us. We’ve made every effort to apply those principles to our relationship. And many invaluable counseling sessions have also helped!

Before I dig deeper into some of our struggles and how we came through, let me put this on the record: I am married to a man who is ever-faithful and who loves and adores me and our kids and grandkids. I can say to you all without hesitation that God has given me my husband as a gift! Tommy is a man of strong conviction and principles, and I’ve never had to worry about porn, cheating, financial impropriety, or violence. He is—and has been right from the beginning of his conversion—an individual who loves God. He is a man of deep faith.

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I am married to a man who is ever-faithful

and who loves and adores me and our

kids and grandkids.

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But oh the lessons we’ve learned! In the early years of our marriage, we struggled with many issues as a result of not having Christ as our foundation. For years we’ve had to climb mountains of adversity to finally reach a plateau of contentment. And there’s an excellent chance that more summits await just over the horizon. But the same is true of every marriage, right? Maybe you’ll recognize a few of these peaks we’ve had to scale.

Unmet Financial Expectations

One of the more difficult struggles for me was grappling with unmet expectations. I believe I battled this problem much more than Tommy did. In other words, he always respected me, even with all of my shortcomings, but I did not always exhibit respect toward him.

I often resented having to work, which lead me to disrespect Tommy for not being a better provider. Even though the Lord blessed my career by giving me more responsibility and higher pay, there were times when I felt trapped because of the need for my paycheck. Tommy was (and still is) in real estate, and because of the ups and downs of the housing market, it wasn’t an option for me to stay home with the children. I had no choice but to work. On occasion when days got stressful, I wanted to throw in the towel and scream, “I’d rather live on the streets than face another day at work.”

The “Suck It Up” School of Health

In addition, Tommy had his fair share of health problems. And they were not the terminal kinds that elicit sympathy, at least from me.

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